The heart has to be in the right place. Because if you just use the three-step routine—let’s say it’s like: “I think this is a horrible, awfully stupid idea. I’m not sure why you can’t see it. Let me tell you why you’re an idiot. And at the end: do you also agree that you’re an idiot?”—you know, I mean, it’s more entertaining.
So if you do the three-step process and your heart is not in the right place, with the intention of being truthful with him in a way that will serve him—
—and respecting him, that it’s about him making a choice that he could feel right about… then it’s just a gimmick, and it won’t work.
So your values and the technique all have to be aligned with each other.
